Love matters. Whether it's the romantic kind or the emotional bond between you and family or friends. Indeed latest research suggests that those who love and are loved are significantly more likely to be alive in 10 years time than those without love in their lives. Love makes us happy, and the happier we are, the longer it seems we tend to live. So, why is it that some people find relationships so easy? We all know the kind of person, married forever, connected with their family, and strong friendships that have stood the test of time from all stages of life. The people who make friends easily, who have someone utterly devoted to them and for whom many would do anything. What do they know and do that the rest of us could learn from? That's what you'll find in this book. If you study people who are so good at relationships you discover it's not about their personality or gender or how self sacrificing they are. Those who are great in all relationships usually do have to work at it. The secret is that they know exactly where to put their efforts. They know the Rules of Love. In this book these Rules are revealed, so you too can benefit from the simple principles of forming and sustaining strong, enduring and ultimately, life enhancing relationships. Contents Rule 2 Get Over It Before You Get on with It Rule 3 You Wont Be Happy with a Partner Until You Can Be Happy on Your Own Rule 4 Youll Know Them When You Meet Them Rule 5 Choose Someone Who Makes You Laugh Rule 6 Being Less than a Hundred Percent Attractive Is a Great Filter Rule 7 Dont Keep Making the Same Mistakes Rule 8 Certain People Are Off Limits You Know Who They Are Rule 9 You Cant Change People Rule 10 Relationships Arent About Sex Rule 11 You Should Know Someone Through All the Seasons Before You Make Any Major Decisions Rule 12 Dont Stay with Someone Who Doesnt Care Rule 13 If You Cant Trust Them You Havent Got a Relationship Rule 14 Be Honest While You Still Have the Chance Rule 15 Dont Play Games Rule 16 Dont Paint New Partners with Old Brushes Rule 17 Make Sure You Both Have the Same Shared Goals Rule 18 You Cant Make Someone Love You Rule 19 Be Cruel to Be Kind Rules of Relationships Rule 20 Be Nice Rule 21 Be Together Because You Want to Not Because You Need To Rule 22 Allow Your Partner the Space to Be Themselves Rule 23 Look to Your Own Faults Rule 24 Be Honorable Rule 25 Put Each Other First Rule 26 Recognize the Signs Rule 27 Be a Heroor a Heroine Rule 28 Accept the Differences Embrace What You Have in Common Rule 29 Houston We Have a Problem Rule 30 You Want to Do What? Rule 31 Let Not the Sun Go Down Upon Your Wrath Rule 32 Be the First to Say Sorry Rule 33 Dont Belittle Your Partner Rule 34 Dont Put Them on a Pedestal and Expect Them to Stay There Rule 35 Dont Dump Responsibility on Your Partner Rule 36 Never Stop Trying to Be Attractive Rule 37 If You Can Say Anything Nice Do Rule 38 Dont Try to Be Their Parent Rule 39 Dont Be a Nag Rule 40 If Little Things Annoy You Say Sowith Humor Rule 41 Go that Extra Step in Trying to Please Them Rule 42 Make Sure Your Partner Is Always Pleased to See You Rule 43 Know When to Listen and When to Act Rule 44 Let Them Know If You Dont Like Their Friends Rule 45 Jealousy Is Your Stuff Not Theirs Rule 46 Your Partner Is More Important Than Your Kids Rule 47 Make Time for Romance Rule 48 Have a Passion for Your Life Together Rule 49 Share the Workload Rule 50 Trust the Other One to Do the Job Rule 51 Be Part of Their Life Rule 52 Make Sure Your Love Making Is Making Love Rule 53 Dont Control Them Rule 54 Listen to What Theyre Not Saying Rule 55 Most Everyday Arguments Are About Something Else Rule 56 Respect Privacy Rule 57 Treat Your Partner Better than Your Best Friend Rule 58 Dont Be Offended if They Want Some Space Rule 59 Men Like Flowers Too Rule 60 Keep Your Finances Separate Rule 61 Contentment Is a High Aim Rule 62 Be Generous to Each Other Financially Rule 63 You Make a Choice Every Day Rule 64 Dont Be a Martyr Rule 65 You Dont Both Have to Have the Same Rules Rule 66 Put Yourself in Their Shoes Rule 67 InLaws Are Part of the Package Rule 68 Keep Talking Rules of Parting Rule 69 Listen to Your Own Internal Voice Rule 70 Recognize That It Takes Two Rule 71 Keep the Moral High Ground Rule 72 Dont Keep Reliving It Over and Over Rule 73 Leave the Kids Out of It Rules for Family Rule 74 Dont Blame Your Parents Rule 75 Dont Let Your Parents Control Your Feelings Rule 76 Your Children Come Before You Rule 77 Nothing Is Worth Falling Out Over Rule 78 Treat Them the Way You Believe Is Right No Matter How They Treat You Rule 79 Dont Pressure Your Family Just Because You Can Rule 80 Never Be Too Busy for Loved Ones Rule 81 Your Children Need to Fall Out with You to Leave Home Rule 82 They Dont Have to Be the Same as You Rule 83 Theres Always Stuff with Siblings Rule 84 Let Go of Your Role Rules of Friendship Rule 85 There Are No Rules Rule 86 Your Best Friend Was Once a Stranger Rule 87 Only Have People in Your Life Who Make It Better Not Worse Rule 88 If Youre Going to Be a Friend Be a Good Friend Rule 89 Never Give Advice Rule 90 Find Friends Who Love the Truth Rule 91 Never Lend Money Unless Youre Prepared to Write It Off Rule 92 If You Dont Like Their Partner Tough Rule 93 When One Finger Points Forward Three Point Back Rule 94 Friendships Change Rule 95 Know When to Let Go Rule 96 Bitterness Helps No One Rules for Everyone Rule 97 Guilt Is a Selfish Emotion Rule 98 Love Equals Time Rule 99 The More You Give the More You Get Back Rule 100 Other People Are Where Its At Footnotes